Does anyone else get as tired of explaining their intentions as I do???

I used to think as a child that is was just part of growing up. When I was in relationships I thought is was because my partner felt they had a right to know. When I was an employee it was regarded as the employers right to ask. When I was a business owner, I regarded it as a necessary evil to promote myself. With my friends I thought it was because they cared, or they just loved to get the dirt.

Now all of the above are somewhat acceptable reasons for explaining your every move…. however…. must we explain our every word, move or intention? Must there be a valid reason? If there is no reason, would you prefer to hear a lie?

If I wanted to take off for a couple of days, do you need to know why? Do I have to have a reason why? Can’t I just go away because I want to? I might have 100 reasons why I am doing what I do, being whoever you are doesn’t entitle you the bowels of my mind.

If I buy something, does there have to be a reason why? Can I not just buy it because I fancy it? Do I have to have a reason? Does the reason have to be a good? Do I have to justify it’s neccessity? Isn’t it enough that I bought it? Do you not trust my own good judgement?

If I have an opinion, do I have to justify why I have that opinion? Why can’t I just have it? I have certain values in life that may differ from yours, why do I have to justify them? Why do I have to argue over their justification?

If I want to do something for someone, do I have to have a reason why? Can I not do something for someone just because it feels good? Do they have to deserve it? Do I have to justify my agenda on why I did it? Does there have to be an alterior motive? Why can’t I just see something & think I want to buy it for whoever?

If I want to hold my girlfriends hand in public, do I have to explain that I’m not a lesbian? If I find a woman or a man attractive, does this mean my marriage is at risk? If I want a comforting snuggle off either sex, do I have to explain that I wanted comfort and not having an affair? If my best friend is a male, do I have to constantly justify that he is just a friend? Can I go away with a male friend without having to explain my actions.

Everyone wants a bloody explanation for everything. It seems so many people have to read something into everything.

Wouldn’t you love to do whatever you wanted without having to explain every action? Wouldn’t you just love the simplicity of just doing because you wanted to?

Having to explain everything is not going to prevent anything happening. People lie. When faced with no explanation to their actions, they lie. We all do it. So what’s the point? If I volunteered the information to you there is more chance of the truth than there is if I have to explain.

Next time you ask “why”, give the person the privilage of saying “just because I wanted to”. If you are concerned about whether what they are doing/or going to do is going to hurt anyone, ask them that. “not breaking any laws or hurting anyone?”, and a simple “no” should suffice.

I’m not calling for anarchy. Just a little more freedom to enjoy our life!